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Jenn

Hello & welcome to my fashion & lifestyle blog, Style My Mind! Here I post weekly about affordable fashion trends, but ya know, like real affordable! My favorite products, beauty routines & lifestyle experiences! I'm a girls-girl who loves the outdoors, white tee shirts & Disney World. Join me on my journey!

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Who's busy? We're all busy, right? This is the rat race we live in anymore. Always on the go, always in meetings or traveling. While this can be fun and keeps the paychecks coming, it is not my ideal day. So it made me start thinking, what is my perfect day? What would it consist of? Let's say money wasn't an issue, ever think about it… how would you spend the day?

 

Who's busy? We're all busy, right? This is the rat race we live in anymore. Always on the go, always in meetings or traveling. While this can be fun and keeps the paychecks coming, it is not my ideal day. So it made me start thinking, what is my perfect day? What would it consist of? Let's say money wasn't an issue, ever think about it… how would you spend the day?

Mine; I would do some things the same like waking up and going for a run or walk. This is my time to get my body moving and it really helps me feel good the rest of the day. Then I could really go two ways. Most people would say beach, I am sure. For me, while I love the beach and that could definitely be a great day I would say either a day on a boat or a shopping day.

THE BOAT DAY

Me, my best friend, a boat and a hot captain or two out at sea! So Marissa and I have this weird obsession with tracking sharks. Like, we do this laying next to each other on the couch and compare the sharks who have traveled the furthest haha. FYI I am deathly afraid of sharks, like it's my number one fear. But, this shark tracker we have is so interesting and calming. I know it sounds really weird, like who thinks tracking deadly sharks is calming? But I think knowing there is something bigger than you out there swimming around freely, makes me almost envious of them. So I think taking the boat up to see if we can find our fave shark, "YETI" a female white shark hanging around out by Sarasota.

Let me set the scene, drinks, tunes, wind blowing, laughs & a YETI sighting. I think ocean/gulf life is amazing. I just want to explore our coast a little more. When it gets cooler in the evening we break out some hoodies, watch the sunset and light a fire on-shore. More tunes, invite some friends, some drinks and no phones. Not very costly and super chill.

 

THE SHOPPING DAY

Let me set the scene, me, my best pair of running shoes, a Venti Starbucks Strawberry Acai and no credit card limit (of course someone else is paying the bill) at International Plaza. I would have lunch at Bazille because I love it there, and probably some cocktails because shopping is always more fun with cocktails. Then I would go home and change into something absolutely fabulous that I bought and meet girlfriends on the water for drinks and dinner. This ends with dancing, laughs and crashing in a giant bed at Opal Sands in Clearwater Beach. Now THAT sounds like the most perfect day!

 

What's your perfect day like?

 

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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Who doesn't love new jewelry every month? We're women, of course we do. I was introduced to Rocksbox about 3 months ago. Rocksbox is a monthly jewelry "rental" subscription box. I am here to tell you what I like about this box compared to some others I have used.

(Gorgeous rose gold crystal hoops)

(Triple Layer Druzy Necklace)

Who doesn't love new jewelry every month? We're women, of course we do. I was introduced to Rocksbox about 3 months ago. Rocksbox is a monthly jewelry subscription box. I am here to tell you what I like about this box compared to some others I have used.

 

You create your own wish list with styles that you like. When you first register your account, you can go in and select as many pieces you want to have in your "wish list". Normally, at least one of these pieces shows up in your box each month.

 

You can swap out the styles before they come. You get hooked up with a stylist who selects your jewelry each month, but, before it comes your way you can preview and swap out anything you aren't feeling.

 

(Purple & white enamal earrings & silver chain wrap bracelet)

You can let them know if you have a specific event or outfit you need to style ahead of time for the next box and they will help you out. They have some high end designs and on the lower end. I have seen items from $30-$100.

 

You can keep the jewelry as long as you want and it comes with an easy return label and  reusable bag to pop right in the mailbox.

 

You get your $21 monthly fee in a credit if you buy any of the jewelry from your box that month. But you have to use within a certain time frame. I have bought a pair of earrings and a ring stack so far from my boxes!

(White & Gold Diamond Shaped Drop Earrings)

A bonus, they are very quick to respond to questions or concerns you have. All in all I give Rocksbox a rave review. Even when a piece of jewelry came broken, they automatically gave me an extra $10 credit on top of my $21.

Here's my current box!

I JUST PURCHASED THIS BEAUTY ^^

If you want to test it out, I have a special discount code for your first month FREE ---> STYLEMYMINDJENNXOXO. I think you're gonna love it!  Let me know in comments what you love about ROCKSBOX!


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Jenn

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Since I know you guys LOVE learning about me, here are some of my favorite things, currently including song, food, place to shop & my favorite quote!

Since I know you guys LOVE learning about me, here are some of my favorite things, currently. 

 

Shop this look at Scout & Molly's Hyde Park
Tampa, FL

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Song: Foster the People, Sit Next to Me

Food: Currently on the macro's diet my favorite thing is chicken (boring) but also loving Ben & Jerry's Non-Dairy Ice Cream in PB & Cookies.

Drink: Hot tea; Hibiscus & Chamomile with Lavender

Alcohol Drink: Mich Ultra or Cucumber Vodka with water, lemon, lime & basil.

Place: Bathtub with a candle and a good book followed by a cup of hot tea.

Place to Shop: Well the last place I shopped was Nordstrom #Nsale but my favorite place to shop is Fab'rik in Tampa or Scout & Molly's Hyde Park.

Place to Eat: Fresh Kitchen

Book: Joyce Meyer Battlefield of the Mind seriously everyone needs to read this book to have a more peaceful life!

Show: I always fall back on my go-to's .i.e. Gossip Girl and One Tree Hill and always, always Sex & the City. But right now watcing Vanderpump Rules and Very Cavalleri

App: ColorStory to preview and edit Instagram posts.

Appliance: yes, I have a favorite appliance! Electric Tea Kettle.

Accessory: Wired Headband Wrap (I use around my messy buns for a cute 50s vibe), along with my Vintage Heart Sunnies.

Workout: Home workouts with PeachBands - you can go on YouTube and find quick work outs. Mine are as follows:

Crab Walk

PeachBand Pull with lunge

Jumping lunge (no band)

Front to back lunge

Jump Squats (no band)

Lifted Glute Bridge with Band

Plank with band on wrists moving wrists side to side

Tricep pulls

Product: Amika Texture Spray seriously the best! Look out for flash sales for 50% off on IG and FBK.

Favorite Scripture: Proverbs 31:25 She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.

Quote: "Eventually all the pieces fall into place. Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moment and know that everything happens for a reason." -Carrie Bradshaw

XO, Cheers!
Jenn



 

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I hope everyone had a wonderful, fun and safe 4th of July! Holidays can be exhausting. We are running around, cooking, baking, picking up party favors and putting down the booze! It's almost like we need a vacation from holiday, right? Sometimes after weeks(ends) like this I need to just stop, regroup and get back to reality. I am a true culprit of a person who let's life get overwhelming before shutting down completely and realizing I need a break. Read more here!

 

 

 

 

 

Happy Sunday! 

I hope everyone had a wonderful, fun and safe 4th of July; yes I know it was like two weeks ago! Holidays can be exhausting. We are running around, cooking, baking, picking up party favors and putting down the booze! It's almost like we need a vacation from holiday, right? Sometimes after weeks(ends) like this I need to just stop, regroup and get back to reality. I am a true culprit of a person who let's life get overwhelming before shutting down completely and realizing I need a break.

Once I do, the first thing I begin is a daily devotional. I have daily schedule when I read my devotional and scripture passages. When I wake up I do my Bible App verse and meditate on that for the day. At the end of the day I do a daily devotional (one of the four below) and a bible passage from my One Year Bible. I try to take one line from the scripture to take with me the next day. I practice that one line throughout the day to keep me living Gods way. Well, I try to! Here are some of my favorite devotionals.

EMBRACED by Lysa TerKeurst 

I fell in love with Lysa's words when I read "Uninvited" and am reading her book "Unglued" now. I connect on a personal level with Lysa and her words really hit home for me. She keeps it real, doesn't sugar coat anything and it's quite honest in her struggle with Christianity. We are not perfect, no one is! And it is good to know this woman of Christ is still working on herself daily.

100 Brave Days by Annie G. Downs

Marissa gave me this one for Christmas and I love it because each one talks about a different story how Annie was brave and helps you use it in your daily life. We are all scared of things but God never intended us to live in fear. Take the nerves and turn them into power, into art, into beauty!

Trusting God Day by Day by Joyce Meyer

 

Joyce Meyer was the first preacher I ever started listening to. She is so raw, so real and the Jersey girl in my loves that about her. She is not afraid to scare you, but not in a bad way! In a God fearing kind of way. In this devotional, it gives your strength and courage each day and to remember no matter what is happening you have to just give it to God and he will take care of it. If you are overwhelmed, overworked and stressed out take a deep breath and lay it all out there. It's funny because somedays I open a devotional and it is EXACTLY what I was going through that day. That's how I know this ish isn't BS! Can you say BS in a devotional post?

The Confident Woman Devotional by Joyce Meyer

This beauty is geared toward women and the challenges we face on a daily basis. Our lifestyles are different than men so we need different counseling than they do. Our minds are different too! Joyce digs into the daily lives of a woman and talks about slowing down, talking to God and the importance for taking time for yourself. I don't have children but I do work a lot and I know how hard it is to remember to stop and take time for yourself sometimes. We need to slow down.

I hope you check these out and love them as much as I do! They are a few paragraphs and really help to build you up and keep you going! 

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Photos by Audra Nicole Photography

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

 

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As Miami Swimweek has come and gone, I wanted to share with you some highlights from this past weekend's trip with my girls. This is the second year Tamy (VStylist) & I have gone. We definitely learned a lot from our first year & now learned even more in 2018 as well.

As Miami Swimweek has come and gone, I wanted to share with you some highlights from this past weekend's trip with my girls. This is the second year Tamy (VStylist) & I have gone. We definitely learned a lot from our first year & now learned even more in 2018 as well.

Last year we stayed outside of Miami Beach because it was more budget-friendly, however, Uber rides ended up costing us each about $100 so it was not worth it. This year I decided to check out what Priceline had to offer. I love researching hotels and looking for the best deals. This was the first time I had ever done the "surprise" 4-star hotel & I am glad I did. So basically, you have no idea what hotel you are getting but they do guarantee it's in comparison with the 4-star hotels on Miami Beach. I clicked "Book" and "Casa Faena" popped up, a cute little boutique hotel in mid-beach Miami. I took a gander at the pictures & their website & was quite pleased.

WARNING I do want to make you aware that there is a base rate & then of course tax & some other fees. Priceline will charge their hotel fee & then the hotel will charge a resort fee at check out. At the end of the day, it came to $180 per night & $34 for valet parking (which in Miami Beach is like gold).

The hotel is like a mansion basically. With only MAYBE 100 rooms, the vibe is very quaint. It is an old Spanish themed hotel with a lot of detail in the decor and design.

Photos by Christina Jones Photography

They have some great sitting places around the hotel including a rooftop area. The cafe is incredibly adorable &  serves some great food and drink. You can eat inside, or outside which is just as inviting.

This year, instead of running around like chickens without heads we decided to keep the shows limited and simple. Last year we tried squeezing in about 3-4 per night & it really took a toll on us. Friday we hit up the Nautilis Hotel for the Aurora Swimshow. While the show was great, the lighting was not so we were not able to get any photos. NOTE TO THE PR COMPANY: TEST LIGHTING BEFORE SHOW!

Planet Fashion was Saturday evening at the Loews Hotel in Miami Beach. We shopped some vendors before going in & one of my faves was Callyssee, a beauty company made with coffee. Try them out.

The show had about 8 designers. Here are some of my favorites included:

 

RISQUE DUKES 
Photo by Carlos Perez

 

KIMIMI SWIMWEAR

Photo by Carols Perez


 

REVE de RIVE
Photo by Carols Perez

On Sunday before heading home we stopped in the W Hotel's pop-up shop which was supporting breast cancer. I bought this adorable hand-craft bracelet just as a daily reminder to slow down and breathe.

Mia Adora Beauty

Photos by Christina Jones Photography

I think next year we will shoot for NYC Fashion Week! Stay tuned.

 

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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In honor of my five years here in Tampa I am sharing some of my favorite things to do in Tampa, Clearwater & St Pete!

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In honor of my five years here in Tampa I am sharing some of my favorite things to do in Tampa, Clearwater & St Pete!

 

Kraken Cycle boats We did this for our work Christmas party and it was a blast. It's like a peddle pub on the water so you bring your fave bev's, play your fave music and cruise up and down the river. Beware! Every bridge you go under you have to take a drink… there are 7 bridges up & back!!

 

 

Gin Joint I still haven't gotten the total experience of this place but the vibe is amazing and we had a great time. The drinks are fantastic and the staff is personable and interactive. The place looks legit out of the 1950s and there are zero TVs. Fun place for a birthday theme party!

 

Curtis Hixon Park There are always things going on here whether it's the margarita festival, Oktoberfest, concerts or the Christmas skating rink. They have free yoga and other activities you can join in also. I would check their site to see what's coming up!

 

 

Little Harbour his was an adorable little discovery my amazing photographer introduced me to and is also where these photos were taken. This little beach area is located in Ruskin, FL on the east side of the bay. It has an adorable little beach, a restaurant and boat dock. You can stay right there at the hotels and you have everything you need for a mini-staycay!

 

Best Happy Hour Award goes to Kona Grill. It's one of my go-to places at International Plaza. They have all night HH and their menu is the best. Drinks are about $6-8 and they have great sushi and flatbread on their menu as well. I love going with the girls to catch up!

 

Go for a run on Courtney Campbell Causeway, it will take your breath away. They just built this walking bridge and it's a fabulous place to catch a beautiful sunset.

 

LuLu's Oyster Bar in Indian Rocks beach. Great bang for your buck kinda place. It's not fancy, they have paper towels hanging from hangers off the ceiling and the wine is cheap BUT we went with 4 people all drank and had apps and meals and it was $99. The seafood is very fresh too. Yum!

 

 

St Pete Beach is where we go to the beach, right at Toasted Monkey bar! They have music and games. There are actually a bunch of hotels and beach bars you can walk to right along there. It is a lot less "touristy" than Clearwater is. Get there early because parking is no beuno!

 

Marriott Sand Key is another one of our lounge-out spots at the end of Clearwater in Sand Key. It's super fun, there is a bar that over looks the bay. You can rent wave runners or swim in their resort style pool, and it's free!

 

The Canopy is Downtown St Pete is a rooftop bar we frequent. It's pricey but has great views, amazing drinks and usually some good social activity. You can also walk beach drive right there as well and hit up some of the other places. DTSP is my favorite place honestly! We love to walk around Snell Isle or go to events at Vinoy Park. There is a lot to do in one area!

 

 

Ok so these are just some of my faves but hopefully it gives you some ideas of places to visit! Some other things to do is rent kayaks at Honeymoon Island and head over to Caladesi Island. For my fashionistas check out the local boutiques Scout & Molly's in Hyde park (other great stores and shops in there too), Fab'rik, The Look, Debra Kents etc.

Happy Travels!

XO, cheers!

Jenn

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Since Florida is SO HOT in the summer it's hard to look cute all the time at the beach but so many of you take vacations or hang out at resort pools and today I am sharing how to style your swimsuit. Myself, like so many others, are loving the one-piece movement. They have been making so many adorable, stylish one-piece suits and I am loving them. Especially since my "summer bod" is still in progress.  Read more about this look!

 

Hello Beauty Queens 

Since Florida is SO HOT in the summer it's hard to look cute all the time at the beach but so many of you take vacations or hang out at resort pools and today I am sharing how to style your swimsuit. Myself, like so many others, are loving the one-piece movement. They have been making so many adorable, stylish one-piece suits and I am loving them. Especially since my "summer bod" is still in progress. 

I think this particular suit is a great one for a Sunday Funday at a hotel pool or hanging out at your favorite yatch club or beach bar! It's super sexy but not overly revealing. I love the deep V because it can still give you a nice tan line for those V neck tees and tops! 

I styled mine with this amazing clutch by Shiraleah. If you have not checked out her bags, definitely do! She has some adorable ones at Nordstrom that I am linking on my ShopStyle for you to shop! 

This look is also linked here --> ShopStyle <--for you to shop! I styled it up with a floppy white "Out of Office" hat and a lace kimono. I linked another really cute "Rose All Day" hat on my ShopStyle link above. I also inlcuded my Prada sunglasses and another pair I like for this look too!  A sheer kimono is a great way to stay cool but cover up if you head to the pier for lunch or want to take a walk on the beach!

Make sure you are using sunscreen. I have recently started using Sunbum (linked). Be careful what you are putting on your skin. This is hypoallergenic, paraben and gluten free as well as vegan. I also have the oil on there as well and the lip balm. I use it all! I also linked all my favorite summer hair products and the white ball drop earrings I am wearing on my Amazon!

Happy swimming!! 

Photos by Audra Nicole Photography

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Jenn

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So, my full time job requires a lot of travel. I am on the road or flying somewhere about 30% of the time. I am a pretty healthy eater majority of the time and I am really good with portion control however, I do indulge a little more on weekends. While traveling, it can be very difficult to stay fit and eat right with all the happy hour cocktails, lunch and learns and dinners in different cities. I like to explore and try different foods in different cities so I don't hold myself back when I am traveling. The key is to stay on track while NOT traveling. Read more about my work outs, supplements & favorite place to order organic groceries to your door!

 

 

 

 

 

Happy summer lovelies!

 

So, my full time job requires a lot of travel. I am on the road or flying somewhere about 30% of the time. I am a pretty healthy eater majority of the time and I am really good with portion control however, I do indulge a little more on weekends. While traveling, it can be very difficult to stay fit and eat right with all the happy hour cocktails, lunch and learns and dinners in different cities. I like to explore and try different foods in different cities so I don't hold myself back when I am traveling. The key is to stay on track while NOT traveling.

 

Being that my birthday just passed (well two months ago haha) and it seemed to be a month of celebrating I am carrying a few extra LBs right now, I can totally feel it. It happens but I know it's time to buckle down and maybe detox for a few weeks. I do try to stay on a weekly workout routine and always, always take my supplements daily. You may not know this, but keeping up with your vitamins can help keep unwanted belly fat and extra insulation off. 

 

Get my daily essential vitamins HERE! If you are interested in buying them seperately, or more information on my powedered vitamins please email me stylemymindjenn@gmail.com.
 

First thing I do in the morning is put on my mixologist cap and shake up my Isotonix cocktail. I found these supplements last year when I was having horrible GI issues. I suffer(ed) from IBS and acid reflux. Since I have been on these products, I no longer have to take my reflux medicine and the IBS has subsided.

 

•           1 packet of medical grade Aloe this will help heal your entire GI system from the throat down! SAVIOR, seriously!

•           1 cap Isotonix Multivitamin

•           1 cap OPC 3 (amazing benefits. This is what helped my IBS. Also, my friend's cholesterol dropped 30 points in one month after adding the OPC 3 to her supplement regime).

•           1 cap B Complex (some days require one morning and one afternoon shot) this has lessened my coffee intake along with the MochaTonix.

•           ½ scoop powdered fiber (IBS!)

 

Shake it all up with the instructed amount of water and I take it down on my way to work. I can feel it work every day. I didn't take it until 2pm a few weeks back and I was draaaagging. As soon as I took it, it livened me up and I had way more energy for the afternoon.

 

The other two products I use are the digestive enzymes and TLS Carb & Fat Inhibitator. The enzymes are perfect if you have eaten a very filling meal or if your belly is super bloated. Take half, or a whole packet with some water and it helps digest that food sitting in the gut. The TLS product helps to curb your appetite. Take  2 before your 2 largest meals and it will help portion control. This along with cardio 4 times a week and 2-3 gym visits is how I maintain myself during my work trips. This allows me to indulge a little bit and not pack on the LBS!

 

I also found a great app to use if you cannot get to the gym or you are in a hotel and don't want to use their gym. The Nike training app or Swork It are great 15-20 warm up routines that really get the blood flowing. They have different work outs for different body parts or whatever you are looking for.

 

I also just started using Peach Bands. My sister sent me them and I love using them to workout at home or on the road. They are small so they fit in your suitcase. There are a ton of resistance band workouts on YouTube as well. I love that you can use them while watching TV or talking on the phone. All about multitasking!

 

As far as eating goes, I just started ordering from Thrive Market. They have all organic snacks and meals and are great for travel food. They have some great premade meals like quinoa and basil pesto that does not require refrigeration or to be heated. There is no MSG in this either. I take one of those and a travel oatmeal with me if I cannot get to food. For instance if I am at a 7 hour benefit fair without food, I will pack this and some organic popcorn and sweet potato tortillas.  I love Thrive because they deliver to your home, the prices are cut in half and you get $20 and free shipping off your first 3 orders!! Use the link above and check it out!

 

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Photos Audra Nicole Photography

 

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

 

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I have wanted to write this blog for a few weeks and now with the death of Kate Spade I definitely felt a tug on my heart strings to share the truth about mental health.  My sister has always been very open and honest in sharing about her anxiety disorder. She has been living with it for quite a while and she has been someone I have turned to a lot in the last few years for help. I only recently was diagnosed with this disorder but have known for years that I had some issues. They really came to a head in the last few years with some of my relationships and in the work place. I would read things, articles and books and they would describe traits and I would think "OMG that is me!" but I never wanted to admit that this was something I had. I don't have anxiety attacks often but I do get anxiety often.

Good Morning Beauties!

I have wanted to write this blog for a few weeks and now with the unfortunate death of Kate Spade and others, I definitely felt a tug on my heart strings to share the truth about mental health.  My sister has always been very open and honest in sharing about her anxiety disorder. She has been living with it for quite a while and she has been someone I have turned to a lot in the last few years for help. I only recently was diagnosed with this disorder but have known for years that I had some issues. When my therapist told me "you have anxiety with panic disorder" I cried. Even though I knew this, to hear someone I don't even know diagnose me was a hard pill to swollow. My anxiety really came to a head in the last few years with some of my relationships and in the work place. I would read things, articles and books and they would describe traits and I would think "OMG that is me!" but I never wanted to admit that this was something I had. I don't have anxiety attacks often but I do get anxiety often. I appear cool as a cucumber on the outside, but inside I'm just a burning piece of toast!

General anxiety disorder (GAD) can mean many things for various people. For me, it means perfectionism, fear of the future, anger, OcD and trying to control every aspect of my life. It has become exhausting. My body and mind are running constantly. I keep my hands in many pots to occupy my obsessive thoughts. My therapist explained to me that OcD (big O little c) is a part of my GAD. There is a difference between a big O and a big C. A big O means obsessive thinking. I continuously find myself thinking the "coulda, shoulda, woulda, what if" ways. "Well, this could have happened but instead this did so how can I fix it? How can I change it?" or "What IF this happens in the future? How can I control it to happen or not happen?" The fact is, we have very little control in life, but we can control how we think about things and how we react to them. So my therapist suggested I start CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). She knew right away what my challenges were and how I could be helped. I needed to cut out the people who were causing my obsessive thoughts and take time for me, for some self-reflection and relaxation.

So right there in her office she taught me how to relax my body. I am a busy lady who is always on the go, prefers running over yoga and only Netflix binges when it's down-pouring. Otherwise you can find me do anything else besides being still and alone with my thoughts. My brain is my own worst enemy. She taught me how to deep breathe which has honestly saved me. I use this tactic every single day now with a meditation app. I do the app once in the morning and once at night. Throughout my day I will pause and take 3-5 deep breaths to bring myself back down to earth when I am getting too worked up or upset. I cannot believe how much this works. Part of my diagnosis is also "panic disorder".  I have had about 5-6 panic attacks in my life. One was just a few weeks ago for no reason. Most of them happen at night when I wake up out of my sleep because I am having trouble breathing. I have crappy sinuses so sometimes I can't breathe well. I am thinking this is what happened and I woke up in a panic thinking that I was dying. Well, if you haven't had a panic attack or know nothing about them, there are two different kinds; internal and external. This was an internal panic attack caused by… you guessed it, my overactive brain. I thought myself into a panic attack because of the weird feelings my body was having, absolutely nothing else was wrong. I had a great day, everyone is healthy and I spent the afternoon relaxing at the pool. So a few minutes into the panic I pulled up my Aura app and did my deep breathing and meditation for about 15 minutes. I calmed down and went back to sleep. This was the quickest panic attack I ever calmed down from. Try breathing! I am also going to get into yoga! After my travel and moving is done… somethings can't change, I like being busy, it is what it is haha!

CBT is great because it's relatable and made me realize I am not the only one with these challenges. I call my sister a lot when I am having a moment and she is a wonderful resource for me but I am also using ­Midwestern Center for Stress & Anxiety, "Attacking Stress & Anxiety". I listen to the CDs/DVDs about once a week and do the workbook 1-2 times a week. It really helps you learn why you think and react the way you do sometimes. For instance, I am a re-acter not a responder so this teaches me to stop and really think about the response I want to give someone or a situation and what I want to get out of it. When we react, like I do most times, anger comes out and then regret later and I feel guilty for behaving the way I did. So now, I am taking my time with my responses and even my actions. One of those people I had to shed for a bit I often think about texting but I know it's not good for me right now so I stop and think to myself what is the point? What would I expect from it and what good would it bring to me? And I realize at this point in my therapy it would not bring anything good for either of us so I retract my phone and go on with my day.

I like to plan things, I am a planner.  I don't think this is a bad thing but I am working on trying to be more flexible when my plans don't go as expected. I have very high expectations for myself and others and this often leads to disappointment. So I am changing my thought process and trying to be less of a perfectionist.  I am not perfect, I am never going to be and neither is anyone else. I can't expect someone else to want the life I want for them. I can't expect someone to love me more than they are capable of. And I can't expect anyone to change their life or beliefs for me. Those are some examples of unrealistic expectations. One of the activities the workbook had me to was to come up with three "shoulds", so three things I feel I should be doing or have.

  1. I should be married. Why? Why should I be married because society says that is what you're supposed to do? 60% of marriage ends in divorce anyway and most people I know who are married are miserable. Maybe this is something I one day want. It's not a priority for me but it's no one else's decision but my own and I need to be ok with it.
  2. I should have a bigger savings account. Ok maybe this can be a goal. No one tells me I have to do this, but it's probably wise. So I increased my 401k and will go from there. It's probably not as big of a priority, but a good goal to work on.
  3. I should own a house by 3 Why? People in NYC rent for life. I had a discussion with my dad recently and he said really unless you have children or plan to have them it's not worth buying. I don't make millions and I have my own business, so the write off isn't as vital as it is for some. I like renting because I like change. So the response to this one is, no I don't HAVE to own a house by 33, it's my life and my choice and I am doing what's best for me.

    *BONUS*
  4. I should want children. I always wanted kids. I never dreamed of a wedding or my wedding day. I did think of my kid's names and that I wanted a daughter. I would day dream about how I would dress her up! Now, I am not sure if kids are in mine/Gods plans. This one I am going with "whatever God wants for me". Children are a lot of work and I am still a little selfish in my career and schedule and it's not fair to bring a child into the world under the current circumstances. I like picking up and going. I travel a ton and don't want to share my money right now, #truth, it took a while for me to get where I am, I want to enjoy it. I think this is becoming more accepted these days. Kids are expensive as hell.

My blogs are never this long and I apologize but I really wanted to be open and honest about my challenges because I know there are a ton of people who are like me, not wanting to admit or confront them. I have a beautiful life that I created with God and I have taken chances most wouldn't ever take. I have grown so much in the last 5 years and yes I have some roadblocks, but don't we all? I think the best thing is knowing we are not perfect and anxiety is totally manageable and fixable. If you would like more information or want to talk, please email me at stylemymindjenn@gmail.com.

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XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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Ladies, I want to share some affordable products I started using and really love. These are must-have for summer. Some of my makeup faves are the Motives Contour Kit, my eyelash duo, and the Motives Bloom palette. As for hair, I love the Tresemme Texture spray, Amika dry shampoo and L'oreal Air Dry It. Read more here.

 

Every few months I like to update you ladies on some of the new products that have entered my life. As we enter a new season, summer, I thought this was a perfect opportunity to introduce you to some must-haves I am using.

1.       Bloom Palette: I am oogling this eye shadow palette right now. The colors and pigments are so bright and so smooth. I don't usually wear eye shadow but since I got this, I wear it every day. I love mixing the sparkling copper with yellow or the coral. I have used the purple to outline the under eye lid which looked really pretty as well.

 

2.    Thick & Full Shampoo & Conditioner: The last few years I feel like my hair has started to thin a little bit. I think that comes with age as well as my consistent blonding and curling routine. Whoops! I researched some products that would maybe help thicken it back up and this along with the next one seems to be working pretty well. It restores the broken follicles in the hair which then in turn gives a thicker, fuller appearance.

 

3.       Living Proof Thickening Cream: this is a texturizing cream used prior to blow drying your hair which gives it a thicker consistency. 

 

4.       Smashbox Photo finish & Motives Primer: I double up these days. I use the Photo Finish for my full face & then the Motives for under & between my eyes to full in the small creases. 

 

5.       Motives Powder Contour Kit: I was super afraid to contour because it looked like way too much time and if you don't do it right, you can walk out of your house looking like a damn clown. When I discovered the Motives one and how easy it was, I took a chance. It worked out well. I love it. And *TIP* I actually use the "highlighter" to highlight my eye brow bone after I put on my eye shadow to give it a little lift! 

 

6.      You Glow Girl Highlighter: I actually do not use the highlighter from Motives for highlighting aside from my eye brow bone because I like a more shimmering high-def look so I got this one and I am obsessed with it. It makes you glow like you just got in from the sun. Gorgeous. *TIP* Mix this with the coral color from the Bloom Palette for a peachy-shimmering cheer!

 

7.       L'Oreal Air Dry It: Who doesn't love a beach wave?! Seriously. Ok I have great wavy hair but it can also get a little frizzed out. So I use this before I go to sleep along with the thickening cream to wake up with beachy waves. You can also throw it in there after a shower and just let it air dry if you feel your hair gets a little cray sleeping on it wet. 

 

8.       Amika Perk It Up Dry Shampoo: I have used many DS's and this is my fave. It came in my IPSY bag and I fell in love. It has the best smell and consistency.

 

9.       Tresemme Texture Spray: I love the Oribe texture spray but not the price so I tested out this new affordable one from Tresemme. I hate hard, crunchy hair. Hello it's not 1999 stop scrunching your hair. But I do like having some texture and a little hold. This provides both. If you have hair that does not hold a curl well, I would suggest a step or two up from a texture spray. Mine, luckily, holds a curl really well so I get away with a light hold. 

 

10.   Sexy Hair Hot Sexy Hair Protectant: This is important. I did not start using one until last year and I am so mad at myself because I fried my hair multiple times. Use one ladies. This one smells good and is reasonably priced.

 

 

11.   Last, my dynamic duo I swear by! L'Oreal Primer & Telescopic Mascara: I have used designer mascara such as Dior Show & Chanel & when I tell you nothing compares to this one, I mean it. I love long, silky lashes. One of my biggest pet peeves, is spider lashes. The primer helps create fullness where the telescopic brings the length without clumping! You can get both for less than $15. Try it! You will not be disappointed. 

XO Cheers!
Jenn

 

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