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Jenn

Hello & welcome to my fashion & lifestyle blog, Style My Mind! Here I post weekly about affordable fashion trends, but ya know, like real affordable! My favorite products, beauty routines & lifestyle experiences! I'm a girls-girl who loves the outdoors, white tee shirts & Disney World. Join me on my journey!

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The best advice I can give a new blogger is to invest in your photos. I always had friends taking mine but I realized the more interest I was recieving from companies to help promote their brands, the better quality my photos needed to be. Branding and consistency  are some of the most important aspects of a persons business. People like a clean look on a website and photos. So, this year I decided to hire a professional ongoing photographer.

The best advice I can give a new blogger is to invest in your photos. I always had friends taking mine but I realized the more interest I was recieving from companies to help promote their brands, the better quality my photos needed to be. Branding and consistency  are some of the most important aspects of a persons business. People like a clean look on a website and photos. So, this year I decided to hire a professional ongoing photographer.

Why I love social media.

I went onto Instagram and looked up the hashtag #tampaphotograhers. I spent a few hours looking through and researching the diffrent photographers work, websites and about them. It is very imporant to mesh well with the people you work with, so having things in common and the same values and views are important. 

I found Audra Nicole on IG and I was immediately attracted to her photos. I am a big lover of natural light in my photos and my life in general. Her photos were clean, light, bright and full of personality. I went to her website which was also the same. I read about her and we had some things in common; 

1. We both love Jesus

2. We both love Disney World

3. We both love fashion

I think these three things are some of the most important qualities a person can have haha. So, I took a chance and direct messaged her. I told her what I was looking for and even though she had not been doing bloggers I knew she would do a great job; she said LET'S DO IT! She was looking to change away from families and do more branding so it was perfect timing. 

My first shoot was really fun and I liked working with her. Although I had been blogging for about two years now, she gave me so many great pointers to make my photos look better. She always listens to my opinions and takes into consideration my ideas and plans for each look. She knows my pain points on my body (arms cough cough) so she always makes sure those little areas are what I would be ok with. She shows me photos she does not like I would like so I can adjust and fix my body or clothing imperfections to retake it. I never have to re-edit my photos, she does a great job and gets them back to me within 1 week of the shoot. She is always up for props and trying different locations and is ALWAYS on time! She is a busy mom of 3 with a full-time job and a photography business... the term "superwoman" is an understatement. Check out her website and book a session; tell her Jenn sent you!

AUDRA NICOLE PHOTOGRAPHY

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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Some days are not easy, some days are really hard and sometimes it's not a day that is hard, it's a month, or months. For me, it was 3 months of unhappiness. I'm not ashamed in admitting it because we all get into ruts. I already toldja about my anxiety which of course played a large part in the unhappiness. What I learned though during this years' storm is sometimes we have to choose to be happy, it doesn't just happen.

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Some days are not easy, some days are really hard and sometimes it's not a day that is hard, it's a month, or months. For me, it was 3 months of unhappiness. I'm not ashamed in admitting it because we all get into ruts. I already toldja about my anxiety which of course played a large part in the unhappiness. What I learned though during this years' storm is sometimes we have to choose to be happy, it doesn't just happen.

No matter what was going on or what I was doing I just could not find pure joy in anything and I was so frustrated and mad with myself. I would go through spurts of crying and feeling really down for no reason. I have lived alone for a long time now and it never made me feel lonely but when I moved into my new place, which is very big and wide open it made me feel super alone. So I needed to play around a little bit with the "vibes" of the apartment to feel more welcome.

I am a firm believer in feng shui and how a room can literally make your mood. Since I moved in, my bedroom just felt off. I don't know why but it did and everyone that stayed over felt the same way. It just wasn't cozy, and not a place I wanted to be. So when my sister came we re-vamped the room and changed it around until we both felt more at home. And now I love the room and I love being in there.

Ok that was one thing I changed. The next, I needed to make more time for God first! I am not a morning person so waking up to read 3 pages of the Bible is not realistic for me. I do read the daily scripture on the Bible app but I know at night is my time for me when I can be quiet and read so that is what I do; no TV, no phone, just my Bible and a cup of tea and I read and underline what I want to take into the next day with me.

I have to do cardio everyday. If not, it makes me feel miserable. I don't go crazy, maybe a good 2-3 miles but I like going at night, at sunset and jog on the water around my house! It makes me feel calm. I do this and then have my cup of Aveda Tea every night!

I started to realize that even though these things made me feel better, they are mundane and repetitive and not going to make me happy… I just needed to wake up and decide to be happy everyday. I cut people out of my life who were not good for my soul. And with that it was like an anchor that had been holding me back was cut loose and I could be me again.

There are things that people are not going to like about us or things that people expect of us that we don't like. Me especially because I am a perfectionist have to remember not to let this get to me because if I do it will bring me down and drag me around. Remembering to do my best and do it with a smile is the best way to stay happy through repetitive days.

Now I am learning to find happiness in the mundane, everyday things I do! Like staying in and watching movies or TV shows for hours on a Saturday, my morning and night time cardio sessions and writing my blogs. 

Last words, don't take on the weight of the world, it's too much for you. I do this sometimes, I let the devastation of this society eat me alive but it's not me, it's not my issue and I cannot save the world, only God can do that!

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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You know you have 'em! Things you absolutely cannot live without whether it be a dog, a product or security blanket. What are some things you can't live without? Read mine here.

 

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  1. My dog. My Stella girl is 14 and I have had her for 7 years. She is still as sassy as they come. She thinks she runs things here. She likes wearing clothes, but not bows. She likes sitting with me on the couch NetFlix binging my romcom shows, and loves going for walks but only on her terms. She is my little BFF.

  1. Hot Tea. I have become infatuated with different types of hot tea. My favorites are Aveda and Traditional Medicinals. I like the hibiscus and sometimes make it into iced tea. Along with this, I am obsessed with my new Electric Tea Kettle . This baby plugs in and boils in minutes. It turns off when the hot water is ready.

  1. Amika Dry Shampoo and Texture Spray. I wash my hair ohhhh about once a week. I have blonde hair so it's quite dry (blog on this coming soon)! I love the smell, and the consistency these sprays give my hair. Yes they make it more dry but it's great for the 3-5th day on the last wash. I am linking them here. Be advised, if you like them on IG they sometimes have pop up flash sales where you can grab them for $13.

     

  2. L'Oreal Eyelash Primer and Telescopic Mascara. I have been using this dynamic duo for years. I have tried Dior Show and other high-end mascaras but this one is the best. I have a pet peeve with clumpy lashes. The primer thickens them up and the telescopic lengthens and widens the lashes. I have recommended to a few people who loved as well and are still using them.

     

  3. Press-on nails. Yep, I have been doing my own nails for 7 years. I buy them on Amazon. There is a specific way to do them though and I use superglue for the glue, not the pink crap they give you. I take one night every 2 weeks and do my toes and nails. Yes, these bad boys last me two weeks. HINT: File your nail before you glue to get the oils off your nails. The glue lasts way longer. Also, carry a glue with you at all times, when you feel one lifting throw on some glue. I get SOOO many compliments on my nails. Positives of this, it's cheaper and better for your nails. I cannot grow real nails, I tried. My anxiety won't allow it!

  1. Isotonix Daily Essentials and Aloe Powder. The aloe cured my acid reflux about a year ago. It helps keep my system healthy and it's delicious. The daily essentials keeps me going each day. My iso-cocktail is a shot of multivitamin, B Complex, OPC, and Calcium. I can't take vitamins in pill form, it makes me sick so these have been a life saver. They make me feel more energetic. I have cut way, way down on caffeine due to this as well.


What are some of your can't live withouts? Try any of mine, and let me know in the comments what you think!


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Jenn

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Who's busy? We're all busy, right? This is the rat race we live in anymore. Always on the go, always in meetings or traveling. While this can be fun and keeps the paychecks coming, it is not my ideal day. So it made me start thinking, what is my perfect day? What would it consist of? Let's say money wasn't an issue, ever think about it… how would you spend the day?

 

Who's busy? We're all busy, right? This is the rat race we live in anymore. Always on the go, always in meetings or traveling. While this can be fun and keeps the paychecks coming, it is not my ideal day. So it made me start thinking, what is my perfect day? What would it consist of? Let's say money wasn't an issue, ever think about it… how would you spend the day?

Mine; I would do some things the same like waking up and going for a run or walk. This is my time to get my body moving and it really helps me feel good the rest of the day. Then I could really go two ways. Most people would say beach, I am sure. For me, while I love the beach and that could definitely be a great day I would say either a day on a boat or a shopping day.

THE BOAT DAY

Me, my best friend, a boat and a hot captain or two out at sea! So Marissa and I have this weird obsession with tracking sharks. Like, we do this laying next to each other on the couch and compare the sharks who have traveled the furthest haha. FYI I am deathly afraid of sharks, like it's my number one fear. But, this shark tracker we have is so interesting and calming. I know it sounds really weird, like who thinks tracking deadly sharks is calming? But I think knowing there is something bigger than you out there swimming around freely, makes me almost envious of them. So I think taking the boat up to see if we can find our fave shark, "YETI" a female white shark hanging around out by Sarasota.

Let me set the scene, drinks, tunes, wind blowing, laughs & a YETI sighting. I think ocean/gulf life is amazing. I just want to explore our coast a little more. When it gets cooler in the evening we break out some hoodies, watch the sunset and light a fire on-shore. More tunes, invite some friends, some drinks and no phones. Not very costly and super chill.

 

THE SHOPPING DAY

Let me set the scene, me, my best pair of running shoes, a Venti Starbucks Strawberry Acai and no credit card limit (of course someone else is paying the bill) at International Plaza. I would have lunch at Bazille because I love it there, and probably some cocktails because shopping is always more fun with cocktails. Then I would go home and change into something absolutely fabulous that I bought and meet girlfriends on the water for drinks and dinner. This ends with dancing, laughs and crashing in a giant bed at Opal Sands in Clearwater Beach. Now THAT sounds like the most perfect day!

 

What's your perfect day like?

 

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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Since I know you guys LOVE learning about me, here are some of my favorite things, currently including song, food, place to shop & my favorite quote!

Since I know you guys LOVE learning about me, here are some of my favorite things, currently. 

 

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Song: Foster the People, Sit Next to Me

Food: Currently on the macro's diet my favorite thing is chicken (boring) but also loving Ben & Jerry's Non-Dairy Ice Cream in PB & Cookies.

Drink: Hot tea; Hibiscus & Chamomile with Lavender

Alcohol Drink: Mich Ultra or Cucumber Vodka with water, lemon, lime & basil.

Place: Bathtub with a candle and a good book followed by a cup of hot tea.

Place to Shop: Well the last place I shopped was Nordstrom #Nsale but my favorite place to shop is Fab'rik in Tampa or Scout & Molly's Hyde Park.

Place to Eat: Fresh Kitchen

Book: Joyce Meyer Battlefield of the Mind seriously everyone needs to read this book to have a more peaceful life!

Show: I always fall back on my go-to's .i.e. Gossip Girl and One Tree Hill and always, always Sex & the City. But right now watcing Vanderpump Rules and Very Cavalleri

App: ColorStory to preview and edit Instagram posts.

Appliance: yes, I have a favorite appliance! Electric Tea Kettle.

Accessory: Wired Headband Wrap (I use around my messy buns for a cute 50s vibe), along with my Vintage Heart Sunnies.

Workout: Home workouts with PeachBands - you can go on YouTube and find quick work outs. Mine are as follows:

Crab Walk

PeachBand Pull with lunge

Jumping lunge (no band)

Front to back lunge

Jump Squats (no band)

Lifted Glute Bridge with Band

Plank with band on wrists moving wrists side to side

Tricep pulls

Product: Amika Texture Spray seriously the best! Look out for flash sales for 50% off on IG and FBK.

Favorite Scripture: Proverbs 31:25 She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.

Quote: "Eventually all the pieces fall into place. Until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moment and know that everything happens for a reason." -Carrie Bradshaw

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Jenn



 

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I hope everyone had a wonderful, fun and safe 4th of July! Holidays can be exhausting. We are running around, cooking, baking, picking up party favors and putting down the booze! It's almost like we need a vacation from holiday, right? Sometimes after weeks(ends) like this I need to just stop, regroup and get back to reality. I am a true culprit of a person who let's life get overwhelming before shutting down completely and realizing I need a break. Read more here!

 

 

 

 

 

Happy Sunday! 

I hope everyone had a wonderful, fun and safe 4th of July; yes I know it was like two weeks ago! Holidays can be exhausting. We are running around, cooking, baking, picking up party favors and putting down the booze! It's almost like we need a vacation from holiday, right? Sometimes after weeks(ends) like this I need to just stop, regroup and get back to reality. I am a true culprit of a person who let's life get overwhelming before shutting down completely and realizing I need a break.

Once I do, the first thing I begin is a daily devotional. I have daily schedule when I read my devotional and scripture passages. When I wake up I do my Bible App verse and meditate on that for the day. At the end of the day I do a daily devotional (one of the four below) and a bible passage from my One Year Bible. I try to take one line from the scripture to take with me the next day. I practice that one line throughout the day to keep me living Gods way. Well, I try to! Here are some of my favorite devotionals.

EMBRACED by Lysa TerKeurst 

I fell in love with Lysa's words when I read "Uninvited" and am reading her book "Unglued" now. I connect on a personal level with Lysa and her words really hit home for me. She keeps it real, doesn't sugar coat anything and it's quite honest in her struggle with Christianity. We are not perfect, no one is! And it is good to know this woman of Christ is still working on herself daily.

100 Brave Days by Annie G. Downs

Marissa gave me this one for Christmas and I love it because each one talks about a different story how Annie was brave and helps you use it in your daily life. We are all scared of things but God never intended us to live in fear. Take the nerves and turn them into power, into art, into beauty!

Trusting God Day by Day by Joyce Meyer

 

Joyce Meyer was the first preacher I ever started listening to. She is so raw, so real and the Jersey girl in my loves that about her. She is not afraid to scare you, but not in a bad way! In a God fearing kind of way. In this devotional, it gives your strength and courage each day and to remember no matter what is happening you have to just give it to God and he will take care of it. If you are overwhelmed, overworked and stressed out take a deep breath and lay it all out there. It's funny because somedays I open a devotional and it is EXACTLY what I was going through that day. That's how I know this ish isn't BS! Can you say BS in a devotional post?

The Confident Woman Devotional by Joyce Meyer

This beauty is geared toward women and the challenges we face on a daily basis. Our lifestyles are different than men so we need different counseling than they do. Our minds are different too! Joyce digs into the daily lives of a woman and talks about slowing down, talking to God and the importance for taking time for yourself. I don't have children but I do work a lot and I know how hard it is to remember to stop and take time for yourself sometimes. We need to slow down.

I hope you check these out and love them as much as I do! They are a few paragraphs and really help to build you up and keep you going! 

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Jenn

 

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So, my full time job requires a lot of travel. I am on the road or flying somewhere about 30% of the time. I am a pretty healthy eater majority of the time and I am really good with portion control however, I do indulge a little more on weekends. While traveling, it can be very difficult to stay fit and eat right with all the happy hour cocktails, lunch and learns and dinners in different cities. I like to explore and try different foods in different cities so I don't hold myself back when I am traveling. The key is to stay on track while NOT traveling. Read more about my work outs, supplements & favorite place to order organic groceries to your door!

 

 

 

 

 

Happy summer lovelies!

 

So, my full time job requires a lot of travel. I am on the road or flying somewhere about 30% of the time. I am a pretty healthy eater majority of the time and I am really good with portion control however, I do indulge a little more on weekends. While traveling, it can be very difficult to stay fit and eat right with all the happy hour cocktails, lunch and learns and dinners in different cities. I like to explore and try different foods in different cities so I don't hold myself back when I am traveling. The key is to stay on track while NOT traveling.

 

Being that my birthday just passed (well two months ago haha) and it seemed to be a month of celebrating I am carrying a few extra LBs right now, I can totally feel it. It happens but I know it's time to buckle down and maybe detox for a few weeks. I do try to stay on a weekly workout routine and always, always take my supplements daily. You may not know this, but keeping up with your vitamins can help keep unwanted belly fat and extra insulation off. 

 

Get my daily essential vitamins HERE! If you are interested in buying them seperately, or more information on my powedered vitamins please email me stylemymindjenn@gmail.com.
 

First thing I do in the morning is put on my mixologist cap and shake up my Isotonix cocktail. I found these supplements last year when I was having horrible GI issues. I suffer(ed) from IBS and acid reflux. Since I have been on these products, I no longer have to take my reflux medicine and the IBS has subsided.

 

•           1 packet of medical grade Aloe this will help heal your entire GI system from the throat down! SAVIOR, seriously!

•           1 cap Isotonix Multivitamin

•           1 cap OPC 3 (amazing benefits. This is what helped my IBS. Also, my friend's cholesterol dropped 30 points in one month after adding the OPC 3 to her supplement regime).

•           1 cap B Complex (some days require one morning and one afternoon shot) this has lessened my coffee intake along with the MochaTonix.

•           ½ scoop powdered fiber (IBS!)

 

Shake it all up with the instructed amount of water and I take it down on my way to work. I can feel it work every day. I didn't take it until 2pm a few weeks back and I was draaaagging. As soon as I took it, it livened me up and I had way more energy for the afternoon.

 

The other two products I use are the digestive enzymes and TLS Carb & Fat Inhibitator. The enzymes are perfect if you have eaten a very filling meal or if your belly is super bloated. Take half, or a whole packet with some water and it helps digest that food sitting in the gut. The TLS product helps to curb your appetite. Take  2 before your 2 largest meals and it will help portion control. This along with cardio 4 times a week and 2-3 gym visits is how I maintain myself during my work trips. This allows me to indulge a little bit and not pack on the LBS!

 

I also found a great app to use if you cannot get to the gym or you are in a hotel and don't want to use their gym. The Nike training app or Swork It are great 15-20 warm up routines that really get the blood flowing. They have different work outs for different body parts or whatever you are looking for.

 

I also just started using Peach Bands. My sister sent me them and I love using them to workout at home or on the road. They are small so they fit in your suitcase. There are a ton of resistance band workouts on YouTube as well. I love that you can use them while watching TV or talking on the phone. All about multitasking!

 

As far as eating goes, I just started ordering from Thrive Market. They have all organic snacks and meals and are great for travel food. They have some great premade meals like quinoa and basil pesto that does not require refrigeration or to be heated. There is no MSG in this either. I take one of those and a travel oatmeal with me if I cannot get to food. For instance if I am at a 7 hour benefit fair without food, I will pack this and some organic popcorn and sweet potato tortillas.  I love Thrive because they deliver to your home, the prices are cut in half and you get $20 and free shipping off your first 3 orders!! Use the link above and check it out!

 

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Jenn

 

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I have wanted to write this blog for a few weeks and now with the death of Kate Spade I definitely felt a tug on my heart strings to share the truth about mental health.  My sister has always been very open and honest in sharing about her anxiety disorder. She has been living with it for quite a while and she has been someone I have turned to a lot in the last few years for help. I only recently was diagnosed with this disorder but have known for years that I had some issues. They really came to a head in the last few years with some of my relationships and in the work place. I would read things, articles and books and they would describe traits and I would think "OMG that is me!" but I never wanted to admit that this was something I had. I don't have anxiety attacks often but I do get anxiety often.

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I have wanted to write this blog for a few weeks and now with the unfortunate death of Kate Spade and others, I definitely felt a tug on my heart strings to share the truth about mental health.  My sister has always been very open and honest in sharing about her anxiety disorder. She has been living with it for quite a while and she has been someone I have turned to a lot in the last few years for help. I only recently was diagnosed with this disorder but have known for years that I had some issues. When my therapist told me "you have anxiety with panic disorder" I cried. Even though I knew this, to hear someone I don't even know diagnose me was a hard pill to swollow. My anxiety really came to a head in the last few years with some of my relationships and in the work place. I would read things, articles and books and they would describe traits and I would think "OMG that is me!" but I never wanted to admit that this was something I had. I don't have anxiety attacks often but I do get anxiety often. I appear cool as a cucumber on the outside, but inside I'm just a burning piece of toast!

General anxiety disorder (GAD) can mean many things for various people. For me, it means perfectionism, fear of the future, anger, OcD and trying to control every aspect of my life. It has become exhausting. My body and mind are running constantly. I keep my hands in many pots to occupy my obsessive thoughts. My therapist explained to me that OcD (big O little c) is a part of my GAD. There is a difference between a big O and a big C. A big O means obsessive thinking. I continuously find myself thinking the "coulda, shoulda, woulda, what if" ways. "Well, this could have happened but instead this did so how can I fix it? How can I change it?" or "What IF this happens in the future? How can I control it to happen or not happen?" The fact is, we have very little control in life, but we can control how we think about things and how we react to them. So my therapist suggested I start CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy). She knew right away what my challenges were and how I could be helped. I needed to cut out the people who were causing my obsessive thoughts and take time for me, for some self-reflection and relaxation.

So right there in her office she taught me how to relax my body. I am a busy lady who is always on the go, prefers running over yoga and only Netflix binges when it's down-pouring. Otherwise you can find me do anything else besides being still and alone with my thoughts. My brain is my own worst enemy. She taught me how to deep breathe which has honestly saved me. I use this tactic every single day now with a meditation app. I do the app once in the morning and once at night. Throughout my day I will pause and take 3-5 deep breaths to bring myself back down to earth when I am getting too worked up or upset. I cannot believe how much this works. Part of my diagnosis is also "panic disorder".  I have had about 5-6 panic attacks in my life. One was just a few weeks ago for no reason. Most of them happen at night when I wake up out of my sleep because I am having trouble breathing. I have crappy sinuses so sometimes I can't breathe well. I am thinking this is what happened and I woke up in a panic thinking that I was dying. Well, if you haven't had a panic attack or know nothing about them, there are two different kinds; internal and external. This was an internal panic attack caused by… you guessed it, my overactive brain. I thought myself into a panic attack because of the weird feelings my body was having, absolutely nothing else was wrong. I had a great day, everyone is healthy and I spent the afternoon relaxing at the pool. So a few minutes into the panic I pulled up my Aura app and did my deep breathing and meditation for about 15 minutes. I calmed down and went back to sleep. This was the quickest panic attack I ever calmed down from. Try breathing! I am also going to get into yoga! After my travel and moving is done… somethings can't change, I like being busy, it is what it is haha!

CBT is great because it's relatable and made me realize I am not the only one with these challenges. I call my sister a lot when I am having a moment and she is a wonderful resource for me but I am also using ­Midwestern Center for Stress & Anxiety, "Attacking Stress & Anxiety". I listen to the CDs/DVDs about once a week and do the workbook 1-2 times a week. It really helps you learn why you think and react the way you do sometimes. For instance, I am a re-acter not a responder so this teaches me to stop and really think about the response I want to give someone or a situation and what I want to get out of it. When we react, like I do most times, anger comes out and then regret later and I feel guilty for behaving the way I did. So now, I am taking my time with my responses and even my actions. One of those people I had to shed for a bit I often think about texting but I know it's not good for me right now so I stop and think to myself what is the point? What would I expect from it and what good would it bring to me? And I realize at this point in my therapy it would not bring anything good for either of us so I retract my phone and go on with my day.

I like to plan things, I am a planner.  I don't think this is a bad thing but I am working on trying to be more flexible when my plans don't go as expected. I have very high expectations for myself and others and this often leads to disappointment. So I am changing my thought process and trying to be less of a perfectionist.  I am not perfect, I am never going to be and neither is anyone else. I can't expect someone else to want the life I want for them. I can't expect someone to love me more than they are capable of. And I can't expect anyone to change their life or beliefs for me. Those are some examples of unrealistic expectations. One of the activities the workbook had me to was to come up with three "shoulds", so three things I feel I should be doing or have.

  1. I should be married. Why? Why should I be married because society says that is what you're supposed to do? 60% of marriage ends in divorce anyway and most people I know who are married are miserable. Maybe this is something I one day want. It's not a priority for me but it's no one else's decision but my own and I need to be ok with it.
  2. I should have a bigger savings account. Ok maybe this can be a goal. No one tells me I have to do this, but it's probably wise. So I increased my 401k and will go from there. It's probably not as big of a priority, but a good goal to work on.
  3. I should own a house by 3 Why? People in NYC rent for life. I had a discussion with my dad recently and he said really unless you have children or plan to have them it's not worth buying. I don't make millions and I have my own business, so the write off isn't as vital as it is for some. I like renting because I like change. So the response to this one is, no I don't HAVE to own a house by 33, it's my life and my choice and I am doing what's best for me.

    *BONUS*
  4. I should want children. I always wanted kids. I never dreamed of a wedding or my wedding day. I did think of my kid's names and that I wanted a daughter. I would day dream about how I would dress her up! Now, I am not sure if kids are in mine/Gods plans. This one I am going with "whatever God wants for me". Children are a lot of work and I am still a little selfish in my career and schedule and it's not fair to bring a child into the world under the current circumstances. I like picking up and going. I travel a ton and don't want to share my money right now, #truth, it took a while for me to get where I am, I want to enjoy it. I think this is becoming more accepted these days. Kids are expensive as hell.

My blogs are never this long and I apologize but I really wanted to be open and honest about my challenges because I know there are a ton of people who are like me, not wanting to admit or confront them. I have a beautiful life that I created with God and I have taken chances most wouldn't ever take. I have grown so much in the last 5 years and yes I have some roadblocks, but don't we all? I think the best thing is knowing we are not perfect and anxiety is totally manageable and fixable. If you would like more information or want to talk, please email me at stylemymindjenn@gmail.com.

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Ok, so the jig is up! I am a Disney queen. I love it. It is my escape from life, my happy place and I have learned the ins & outs & how to do it up, adult style. Read more to find out my tricks...

It's summer vacation, where ya heading? Don't write Disney off as a place just for the kids. It's definitely not! In this article I want to share with you my best practices when visitng the most magical place on earth.

1. Stay at the Hilton Palace in Disney Springs

It's the most adult hotel in Disney with all the same perks. There is a shuttle to the parks, a hop across the street to Disney Springs BUT the kids pool is seperated from the adults, they have a great pool bar and adult games like cornhole and ladder golf. They totally have a lazy river which is my favorite spot. We like to rent fun floats and dance to the DJ on Saturdays.

I think this fella had a little much too adulting

2. Steer clear of Magic Kingdom, stick with Epcot and Animal Kingdom. Hollywood Studios comes in at number 3 because its's converting to like all Star Wars and that's just not my jam. Epcot has awesome events like the flower show happening in spring and food and wine which happens in the fall. And you can always drink around the world. The best ride there is Soarin'. DAK is my other favorite park because well, the animals! You can also drink and my number one favorite ride is there Expedition Everest. Also, really love the safari! Make sure you do Fast Passes 30 days before your trip. I still haven't gotten on Pandora yet, I am so upset so if you see it available - book it. Download the Disney app!!!

ALWAYS HAVE A PONCHO!!

3. Buy a cute backpack and bring your own snacks and water. Disney doesn't have to be expensive. Make sure the water is closed and you're good to go. 

We didn't bring this food but one of our fave places to eat is Splitsville in Disney Springs, great food and drinks!

4. Always have themed shirts for fun!!!!! You can be a big kid here... but with alcohol!!!! I have 6 pair of Disney ears. As an adult you actually have money, so go here planning on spending it. Not necessarily on food but they do have the cutest clothes and souveniers. 

5. For Florida residents the Silver Disney pass is $140 down and $28 a month. After your first year, nothing down $32 a month and totally worth it. Blackout dates are from June-mid August, 2 weeks at Christmas and Easter break. You don't get parking but if you go to a hotel and tell them you are there to eat, park there and take the monorail or shuttle over to the park. Also, you get 20% off all shops and 10-15% off certain restaurants. 

Xo, Cheers!
Jenn

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When I started reading this book I was like "OMG this is so me!!" and I am sure it's probably a lot of you as well. Who really likes rejection? Who likes to feel inadequate? Probably no one. Lysa shares intimate details from some difficult times in her life that really help build a rapport with her and understand that we are not the only ones going through such hard times. We are not alone, we are loved and we can get through it. Read more here.

 

 

 

 

Photos by Audra Nicole

 

Lysa TerKeurst's book Uninvited changed my life.  I am a very strong, confident person in most of the areas in my life however; I do not handle rejection well, have a strong reaction to things I cannot control and have slight a fear of abandonment (nothing like laying out all your flaws for everyone right? haha). Soon after beginning this book, I realized Lysa is my soul sister. I also felt like I am not alone in feeling this way.  Most of the time I turn to TV shows to feel relateable to others i.e. Brooke Davis from One Tree Hill is also some sort of spirit animal. But that gets kind of tired. Because as we know, no one can make us feel better or lift us up better than ourselves and the Lord. In this book, Lysa shares very personal experiences where she is completely vulnerable and honest, letting us into her not-so-Christian-like character trait. We all have 'em! Let's be honest, we were not made to be perfect we were made for a purpose and most of the time it's to help someone else. In my eyes, Lysa's fulfilled her purpose, at least in helping me.

 

I want to take you on a walk through a few of my favorite stories and quotes from the book and share how they helped mold me into the better person. I am not completely fixed, everyday I have to work on not reacting and not trying to control things but I am learning! Join me on this journey so maybe I can touch one of your lives as well.

 

"The beliefs we hold should not hold us up even when life feels like it's falling apart."  This quote in the book hit home for me because I claim I am faithful, I claim I believe and I claim I want the life God wants for me however, when I am rejected or life isn't going my way I shut down and starting feeding myself negative thoughts. It's really unhealthy. If we have faith and we truly believe God knows what's best we need to live like that every day in every situation, keepng Him in control of life not you. Life was not promised to be easy. But looking back, every time I went through something traumatic or painful I realized a few things; it doesn't last forever, that feeling is only temporary. And secondly, something great always came next. If we keep holding on to our old ways, old relationships etc we will never open ourselves up to a relationship with God or anyone else for that matter.  Lysa goes on to say you cannot tie your identity to a circumstance, because circumstances are ever-changing and unpredictable unlike God who is never changing and always wants best for us. I could have used this book a year ago when I was totally heartbroken over a man I was seeing who decided for ME that I deserved better than him. Turns out, he was right, BUT at the time holy rejection! I shut down, I cried, I got down on myself and felt like I was not good enough for him and he just didn't want me. I didn't understand what I could do to change his mind. But what I didn't know until reading this book, is rejection isn't about you it's about them and their circumstance. And without giving away his personal life, he was going through some difficult circumstances which had nothing to do with me. In fact, I was the sun in his life and he told me that every day. He eventually came back of course haha and that's again when I realized he was trying to make the best decision he could at the time for the situation but that didn't mean I wasn't good enough, in fact it was the opposite.

 

"God is good. God is good to me. God is good at being God." I reiterate this to myself every morning, or at least once a day when I feel I cannot control something, which is often. I  had a big issue with wanting to control everyone around me. Like this quote from Lysa's book, "Here's the plan, and trust me it's really good God. So if you could bless all this … don't mess with all this …. Just bless it and we'll be good." Ok, story of my life. I was and still am trying to control plans and situations with everyone around me. I may not talk about it, it may just be in my head but I do it. Like ok I really feel like he should just love me because why wouldn't he? Or, ok here's what's going to happen God, are you good with that? You can only control you, that is it. Not a circumstance, not another person, nothing else but yourself and your feelings and reactions. But here's the trick, you can't let your emotions or feelings dictate who you are or run your life. Validate the feeling, feel it and then move on. Lysa tells us not to let heartbreak actually break you but let it change you. Let it make you better, let it mold you. I took heartbreak and made it into this blog two years ago and I am so glad I did. If it wasn't for that pain I was going through I may never have felt the urge to even begin this. I was looking for an outlet and I found it here, thank you God.

 

If God had given me my "plan" I had 6 years ago, I would be married to my high school love, living in New Jersey with a few kids and most likely a drinking problem out of boredom. He knew that wasn't the life he had planned for me. The life I have now is way more than I ever even considered asking for. I never thought I would have the bravery to leave my family and friends, but I did and God had my back every step of the way. This is why I am saying, you have to trust with every part of you. Not when you feel like it, not when it's working out but in every single situation. I still struggle constantly and we are only human, so it's expected, but this book has helped me tremendously in trying to let go of my control and be at peace and be more present in moments. I have less anxiety and am enjoying life a little more now.

 

 I just wanted to take a minute to share what I took from the book. There is a whole world of Lysa on these pages that I did not write down here (but I have like every page folded down or written on haha!) and you may take something different from it. I have already suggested it to 3 people and I am praying it helps them just as much as it has for me. Thank you Lysa for blessing me with your words to help me become the person I am meant to be. Oh also, I am now starting her other book Unglued, about how to make emotions and reactions work FOR US and not against us. Stay tuned.....

 

*Outfit Details*

 

Shirt : Amazon 

Earrings: The Gem Co (these are sold out but there are so many other cute ones!)

Shoes: Lucky Brand

White Crops: Lauren Conrad

Gucci Beltbag

Sunglasses: Amazon

Layered Necklace: (my fave) Amazon

 

 

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

 

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