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Hello & welcome to my fashion & lifestyle blog, Style My Mind! Here I post weekly about affordable fashion trends, but ya know, like real affordable! My favorite products, beauty routines & lifestyle experiences! I'm a girls-girl who loves the outdoors, white tee shirts & Disney World. Join me on my journey!

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Fear of the unknown is always something that troubled me. For so long I tried to control other people's actions so that the outcome would be what I wanted it to be. Until I realized, the only person's actions I could control were mine. People are going to do what they want regardless and trying to control them or the situation often times makes it worse.





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Fear of the unknown is always something that troubled me. For so long I tried to control other people's actions so that the outcome would be what I wanted it to be. Until I realized, the only person's actions I could control were mine. People are going to do what they want regardless and trying to control them or the situation often times makes it worse.

I had a talk with my girlfriend a few weeks ago about some personal things she is going through. She is in a dark place right now. And I have been there. I can relate. But one of the reasons I was so in the dark was because I was trying to control everyone and everything around me and I needed to let go and let God step in and do the work. He doesn't want us to carry these types of burdens with us, He wants us to give them up to Him. It's a really, really difficult task to excel at or perfect, but that is where spending time in the word helps. Getting your relationship right with God and your mind set on the TRUTH is the first step to healing the soul.

I just finished reading "You Are a Badass" and the one chapter  was about gratitude and being thankful for the things you don't even have yet. It was also intertwined with "faith". What does faith mean to you? Faith is believing in something even if you don't see it, or it isn't real. Even a future. It's seeing and believing the future that you want for yourself and being thankful to God for it, even before it happens. I often thank God for things I have but I never thanked Him for what I DIDN'T have. I have personal ideas or thoughts about what I want for my future but for some reason I am SO scared to ask God for them. Even though I know He already knows, duh!

"when I stopped trying to control everything around me and just had gratitude and faith, things seemed to fall into place."

So many of my dreams have come true. A lot of them did not happen in the way or timeline I wanted them to, but I realized when I stopped trying to control everything around me and just had gratitude and faith, things seemed to fall into place. I am still scared of the unknown, but I am a little more ok with it. Someone asked me if I wanted to get married and have kids, and I was honest in saying if God wants me to get married or have kids then I will. If not, then I will just follow His plan for my life. I do want to share my life with someone but to me that doesn't necessarily mean marriage. The book I am reading now, "What on Earth am I Here For?" talks about your purpose here on earth. How we are here to prepare for eternity. It's about how you should put others before you, live simplistically and find your true purpose from God deep down inside. I am still only on chapter 4 but so far, I am noticing a trend, this life isn't about yourself it's about Jesus; How can we be more like Jesus?

I think in this society we have such an idea of how our lives are supposed to look but God didn't sew together everyone to be the same and He didn't craft my path to look like anyone else's. Fear is quite the opposite of faith. Fear is being scared of the unknown, where faith is believing in the good, the best for yourself before it happens. Fear is being afraid of what MAY happen. SO many times we create these scenarios in our head of situations and they are so much worse than what they really are which creates anxiety and fear. Reading and trusting the word of God replaces the fear with faith. I am definitely a work in progress, but I just want you all to know if you are out there and you're in a dark place it does get better. Pray about everything, fear nothing and have faith in what's to come.

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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What does independence mean to you? After traveling to Europe and hearing the history of Berlin, Germany I have become more grateful for my freedom than ever. Could you imagine not being able to see your family for years because they were on the other side of a wall? Or being told what to believe, how to live etc? American politics are not really something I ever discuss because it's not part of my platform, but I know there are opinions, laws and ideas that I do not agree with.




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THE IMPORTANCE OF I N D E P E N D E N C E

What does independence mean to you? After traveling to Europe and hearing the history of Berlin, Germany I have become more grateful for my freedom than ever. Could you imagine not being able to see your family for years because they were on the other side of a wall? Or being told what to believe, how to live etc? American politics is not really something I ever discuss because it's not part of my platform, but I know there are opinions, laws and ideas that I do not agree with. I am a feminist and I believe that women can do anything, be anything and deserve complete equality. I am dating someone who doesn't see eye to eye with me on that completely but he has the freedom and right to believe what he wants. That is the beauty of independence.

One of the reasons I have been single for so long is because I love my independence and freedom. I love being able to do what I want, when I want, with who I want. But, the beauty in finding someone else is seeing eye to eye on THAT! Opinions can differ but you have to be agreeable on the relationship. I would never tell Dan what to do, or vice versa. I never feel like I need to keep tabs on him or ask where he is 24/7. We don't have that kind of relationship because we both believe in independence. We follow the same morales, and have the same relationship wants at this point, so it works.

I love having independence to create something beautiful like my blog. Where I can openly voice my thoughts and opinions kindly and truthfully. In this society we have so much freedom to be who and what we want to be and I am so thankful for be a part of this lifetime.

At work, I came from a place where I was constantly watched, constantly checked up on and needed to be at the desk 8-5 everyday even if my work was done. I am a type-A personality, my shit is handled. At The Hartford, they are firm believers in work/life balance, and working however long or short to get your job done and done well, period. I love that. Because when people start to get pressure put on them, or start being watched they shut down. You have to give people the freedom to work how it works best for them. Not everyone finds success the same way.

The point of this blog is to tell you how lucky we, as Americans, are to be able to have our own opinions, our own thoughts, ideas and voyage in life. We are FREE, and for that we are blessed.

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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I met Erika Williner of Erika Williner Designs at the Fly As a Mother event at Don Me Now Bubbly Barchique in Channelside Tampa, FL. I didn't get a chance to chat with her too much but I was immediately drawn to her handcrafted jewelry. I noticed that her line was very cohesive and similar to some current pieces lining the Nordstrom shelves, but she also had a plethora of one-of-a-kind inventory as well. She has such a fantastic variety from classic pearls, to trendy tassels and designer dupes. 





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I met Erika Williner of Erika Williner Designs at the Fly As a Mother event at Don Me Now Bubbly Barchique in Channelside Tampa, FL. I didn't get a chance to chat with her too much but I was immediately drawn to her handcrafted jewelry. I noticed that her line was very cohesive and similar to some current pieces lining the Nordstrom shelves, but she also had a plethora of one-of-a-kind inventory as well. She has such a fantastic variety from classic pearls, to trendy tassels and designer dupes. 

I bought an incredible ring, that is made up of 6 multi-colored rings fastened by a rhinestone encrusted safety pin. I had never seen anything like it and I had to have it. I was like "Oh I am sure it's outrageous but I need it". I walked up to Erika and asked how much, she said it was $34, I was floored at how reasonable her prices are. I specialize in mostly affordable fashion and Erika's pricing falls in line between retail and wholesale. For instance, these tassel earrings in Nordstrom are $50, Erika sells for $25. Back to the ring, the safety pin came undone after a handful of wears and I lost it. I let Erika know and she immediately said she would send another one right away. I expected just to get the pin, but she sent me a whole new ring! I was taken back but her talent but most importantly her customer service. I knew I wanted to work with her. 

I asked Erika if she wanted to do a collaboration and she was just as excited as me about the idea. She asked if I wanted to come to her studio to see her pieces and to do a one-on-one interview. One thing I can tell you about me is that I love working with local designers and business owners, especially those who are really talented and fit my niche. Art comes in many different forms and Erika nailed her talents on the head.



When I walked in, she greeted me at the door and a delicious scent wafted out the door; I was in heaven (I love candles!). Her home was beautiful. She invited me in and offered me a cup of coffee. She took me on a tour of her showroom as well as her studio where all the magic happens. I was amazed at home many pieces and raw material she had, and how organized they were. 

We sat down in the showroom to chat where I sat sipping my coffee, facing Erika, who was wearing the most adorable gold studded espadrille shoes!!! I couldn't look away haha. Erika was born in Argentina but she left there in 2001 to venture to Canada for a few months. During that time she had a lot of free time where she started playing around with jewelry crafting. As I looked around at all the pieces I wondered how long she had been doing this and she said "the company officially started in 2012 after she went to grad school to create a business plan. Prior to then, I was making pieces for fun to give as gifts and then they would ask me for custom pieces for their friends and so on and so forth." 

As a writer, I know inspiration comes differently for people. For me, I get mine from being out and about in the world, and personal experiences. I asked Erika about what her inspiration for starting her business was and she said she loved the way a person's face lit up when she presented them a piece they just adored. She loves making women feel beautiful and understanding and delivering exactly what someone envisions. So, Erika also does custom pieces by request as well!! Some of the custom or more detailed pieces can take up to 4-6 hours, but in general she spends 30-60 minutes on each piece.

Traveling is her number one outlet for her creativity. It is where she gets the ideas and inspiration for her pieces, and mostly in Europe. However, she told me about a cool trip they took to South America last year. "We took a trip to Rio last year and while I was there I created my Rio line incorporating shells and tassels inspired by Brazil." She said a lot of times at night when she is traveling is when she feels mostly motivated to craft and design.

We as fashionistas always have a style icon we look up to, currently, mine is Jessica Simpson. I love her down-low look and her high-end style. She wears it all very well. As for Erika, she loves the classic Sophia Loren look with the pearls and Chanel. I too love the classic look, my fictional style-con is Blair Waldorf from Gossip girl. Give me all the pearls and all the bows, k thanks! 

Before I left Erika's beautiful home, I was telling her how last year I got super burnt out and really forgot my "why" of doing what I do. I lost my mo-jo for a little while. I asked her what she would tell anyone starting a business and she said, "dream big. Don't be fearful because it can hurt you in the long run." And I responded and said, "exactly, we should never let fear of drowning stop us from making a splash!!"

GIVE AWAY!!! We are giving away these earrnings on IG @stylemymind_jenn for the details. Earrings will be mailed on Monday July 1.


Some of my faves!
Stars in Hoops Earrings
 Crystal Open Bangles
Solar Quartz Open Bangle


XO, Cheers!
Jenn

 

 

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In January Dan and I decided to go to Europe for this birthday. So with a few friends in tow, after months of planning we were off on May 17 to Amsterdam, Berlin and Prague. These were never on my list of places to see but I was intrigued and interested of course.

In January Dan and I decided to go to Europe for this birthday. So with a few friends in tow, after months of planning we were off on May 17 to Amsterdam, Berlin and Prague. These were never on my list of places to see but I was intrigued and interested of course.


After 24+ hours of travel we landed in Amsterdam. We went straight to the AirBNB and got changed to head out. Here is what I loved about this city. The canals. OH MY the Amsterdam canals were gorgeous and plentiful. The flowers and detail in the architecture were breathtaking. We went to dinner and grabbed some drinks then explored the city. I have to be honest there was a lot of alcohol consumption. Two of the best things we did were the Heineken Experience tour and the windmills in the countryside. We paid for the VIP experience and it was totally worth it. Our tour guide was fantastic. It was a 2 hour tour and she took us through the history of the beer, showed us how it was made and we did a 5 beer taste pairing in our own private bar room. When we finished, we were taken to a party in the basement which was turned into a club-type atmosphere. We few a few more back then headed to dinner. The next day we went to the windmills. I was a little under the weather but still enjoyed every moment. What was crazy is that these windmills were centered in a small little town where people actually lived. It was so quaint.







Day three we were jetsetting again to Berlin. This was my least favorite city. The history was very interesting to learn about. They went through a lot. I learned about the Berlin wall and the reasoning behind it; the west and east side split. My favorite part of Berlin was the Hofbrauhaus. The beers were flowing, the meat was fantastic and everyone was dressed in traditional German garments. It was low-key and we had a great time. The next day we did a 3.5 hour bike tour where we were guided through the history of Berlin. It was so eye-opening and interesting to learn what had happened and why the two sides of the city look so different. The east side is very city-like with cold streets and graffitti. The west is full of greenery and parks, simply gorgeous.





Day six, we boarded a train and took off to Prague which was and is my favorite of the three cities. It looks like a little Disney town with cobblestone streets and intricate architecture. Our first lunch was amazing and dirt cheap. I could not believe how affordable everything was. We then took our tired rears to St Charles bridge which was absolutely illuminating. We walked the streets, popped into some stores and ended up at a tiny bar taking shots of Absinth. Apparently, that's a thing there. The next day we went to old town where we learned about the world's oldest working clock and the history of the city. We then met friends from Florida who were also there, for dinner and it was incredible. That is one thing I can say about all of these countries, they know how to do food right. The last day was my favorite. We went to the Prague Palace and church, then the Lennon wall and to the Paris street to shop for designed products. This is where I got my Gucci Bag and Louis Vuitton belt. Dan picked up a Mont Blanc pen and 4 Burberry ties. PS- shopping in Prague is 30% cheaper than the US!












If we could do it all over again we would stay in Prague and take day trips around to see more countries. Prague was a fairytale and I really hope to go back one day!

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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As my six year anniversary in Florida approaches I sit here and reflect on everything that has changed in the last six years. I think about where I came from and where I am now. Boy, oh, boy is there quite a difference. I have made a lot of mistakes in my life, but moving to Florida definitely was not one of them.




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As my six year anniversary in Florida approaches I sit here and reflect on everything that has changed in the last six years. I think about where I came from and where I am now. Boy, oh, boy is there quite a difference. I have made a lot of mistakes in my life, but moving to Florida definitely was not one of them.

June 15, 2013

I set sail in my Nissan Sentra with Stella as my ride or die, & dad in tow with my junk. It felt so freeing to pack my stuff, and leave everything I knew behind for an unknown future. It's scary because I had no idea what was in store, but at the same time it was really exciting because it was something I never thought that I would do. I left my comfortable turtle shell and became a butterfly.

I lived in Jacksonville for a year and quickly learned it was not for me. It was hard to meet friends & the vibe just wasn't me. In June 2014 I moved to Tampa, FL where I have been ever since. I fell in love with this city. I have lived in multiple locations throughout the bay and have made a home for myself. I have made a ton of mistakes, but also made a lot of great friends and people I can even call family.

It's crazy to think I was brave enough to walk away from the whole life I knew to start a new one, but now I get so scared of the small, unknown parts of the future. The "what if's" haunt the heck out of me sometimes. What if he leaves me? What if I lose my job? What if I don't have the best shoes in the room? Why do we put so much pressure and worry on things that haven't even happened yet? Fear lives in the future, that is what we are afraid of. Instead of thinking about "what if" I am going to start thinking about RIGHT NOW. AM ok right now? Is anything wrong? Am I happy? Am I healthy? Is everyone safe? Do you have a job? Yes … ok so then why worry about something that isn't even happening at the moment. When we worry, we can sometimes manifest these bad thoughts into reality. But the good news is, we can also manifest GOOD thoughts into reality too.

Like I talked about in one of my previous blogs, Faith vs Fear, I talked about being thankful for things you vision but don't even have yet. Envision your life, what you want and what you expect for it and you CAN make it reality. However, if God has something better planned for you, He will make it happen. It's the most difficult thing in the world to completely give yourself, your mind, your thoughts, worries and happiness to God but it's also the most relieving. When you don't have to take on the pressures or stress of wondering, "Is this going to work out?," "Is this who I am meant to be with?" etc. Practice this. Take your negative thoughts, roll them into a fake, imaginary ball in your hands & throw it up in the air. Pretend that God catches it, & is doing something wonderful with your ball-o-worry. Then, you get to go about your day like nothing will take you down.

No one is worth your tears or worry.

Think about what you're thinking about today, the worry, the anger… are you going to be thinking about this in a month or year from now? So why you stressin' it boo? Why am I stressin' it? If it's meant to be, it will.  A reason, a season or a lifetime… this goes with anything but mostly relationships. Not everyone is forever, I have said this many times. I never date someone with the intention or expectation of getting a ring on my finger because I believe expectations are the root of disappointment. I date for the present, what is going on now! I am a planner, but, somethings just aren't "plannable" ....like relationships. Even if you are married, nothing is ever promised.

I am excited to announce, that I have suavely been able to talk my friend into selling her condo in NJ & have her come to live with me in Florida. She was in the same situation I was, friends all married, stuck in a dead-end job with winters that could kill. She came to visit & of course fell in love with Tampa. I told her that if it was meant to be, it would come easy & fall into place. AND. IT. DID!!!! She got a job fairly quickly & her condo is up for sail! She has cast her worries aside & is ready to begin a new life in Florida. I am so excited for you, Shea! Can't wait to be roomies!

XO, Cheers!
Jenn

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Ten days in Europe was absolutely incredible but it massively dehydrated my body and skin. It's hard to keep up with your normal supplement or skincare routine when traveling so when I got home I went ham. There are so many unsafe radicals and chemicals flying around our faces each day; pollution is at a high. Today I am sharing the beauty products that brought my skin back to life after a trip abroad.

GOOD MORNING LOVLIES

Ten days in Europe was absolutely incredible but it massively dehydrated my body and skin. It's hard to keep up with your normal supplement or skincare routine when traveling so when I got home I went ham. There are so many unsafe radicals and chemicals flying around our faces each day; pollution is at a high. Today I am sharing the beauty products that brought my skin back to life after a trip abroad.

The first thing I did was my Beautycounter No. 3 Balancing Facial Mask. I have talked about this mask numerous times and all of it's benefits but the most important benefit to me is to extract anything living under my skin to pull to the top and wash it away. We are constantly losing layers of skin and this is not always a bad thing. Scrubbing off the dead layers and chemicals that take up residence in our skin cells must be removed. These cause breakouts, dehydration and sometimes can lead to skin cancer. The Balancing mask fights back against these harmful particles and leaves the face feeling clean and healthier.



The second thing I did was 4 nights of VII Code Oxygen Eye Mask. These are small eye shaping gel pads that you sleep in overnight and they revive your under eyes. I noticed when I was away how deep my under eyes started to cave in and became a little dark. I never have too big an issue with this but traveling and drinking alcohol took a toll on me. After 3 nights I felt like my under eyes were back to their cheery selves again. I also started using the VII Code Oxygen Hydrating Eye Spray and I am obsessed. This is a mist that you can use throughout your day to rejuvenate the skin around your eyes for a brighter, tightened look. It is not tight but makes your eyes feel fresh and replenished.  These are both very affordable, and very worth the purchase.

Behold, the Beautycounter Resurfacing Overnight Peel. This is a go-to for me multiple times a week. It is a light facial serum that you massage onto your face and leave overnight. Gently wash off in the morning with warm water. This helped my rehydrate my skin giving it a soft, clean feeling in the morning.

Formulated with 15 botanically-derived acids, this leave-on AHA/BHA peel improves skin texture and minimizes the appearance of pores, fine lines, and dark spots without irritation or over-drying. Glycolic, lactic, and malic acids clear away dull surface skin cells, while hyaluronic acid and essential fatty acids soothe and nourish to reveal a brighter, more youthful-looking complexion.-Beautcounter

I use Beautycounter No. 2 Plumping Facial Mist every single day. I even used this on vacation. I use this before I put my makeup on to refill my fine lines and hydrate my skin. This products helps for when we lose elasticity throughout the day and also helps to set makeup.


If you're looking for a go-to moisturizer without chemicals, look no more. The Countermatch Pure Calm Cleansing Milk is the best around. I use this twice a day. Once before my plumping facial mist and again before bed. "Its conditioning formula respects skin's balance, replenishing essential hydration so your face feels soft and nourished, never dry or tight. Ophthalmologist tested."-Beautycounter

XO, Cheers
Jenn

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Nine months to go until my sister's wedding and I am so excited. This will be the ninth wedding I have been in but of course one of the most important. It is the second time I will be an maid of honor but so many things have changed since the last time in 2011. Now we do bachelorette gifts, matching shirts, favors and have themes for everything and everything must be chic, chic, chic. Let's be honest, if you have been following me you know I am a sucker for a good theme and a chic design.

AHHH! Nine months to go until my sister's wedding and I am so excited. This will be the ninth wedding I have been in but of course one of the most important. It is the second time I will be an maid of honor but so many things have changed since the last time in 2011. Now we do bachelorette gifts, matching shirts, favors and have themes for everything and everything must be chic, chic, chic. Let's be honest, if you have been following me you know I am a sucker for a good theme and a chic design.



 

I decided to go with "Meant to Bee" for my sister's shower in December because everyone calls her "Bee" and her fiance is "TJ" or "Tee". In the past I have ordered such elaborate and expensive invitations that were not created or designed by me but someone else.

I found Basic Invite and became instantly drawn in by their easy-to-design invitations and the packages they offer. Their chic wedding save the dates, invitations and chic photo coaster favors are classy and formal. Everything matches, and I love that! It's so simple to order everything from invitations, response cards, favors and thank you cards in one simple order.

 

My sister's wedding theme is shabby-chic and rustic so I went with the Golden Laural Bridal Shower Invitation that has a slight wooden look to it with gold-foil detail. It is exactly what she would want. I customized the invitation with all the information and included their Disney engagement photo on the back. It was easy to choose a photo and upload onto the site.

 

Here are some differences that I love about Basic Invite over other companies.

You can get a real sample sent to you prior to ordering. Most companies will not allow you to do this. A wedding is one of the most important events of someone's life, of course it should be absolutely perfect just as your invitations should be.


You can customize the invitations with almost unlimited color choices to match the theme of the shower or wedding. My sister's wedding is black, white and gold with hints of burgundy. Since her shower theme is bees I stuck with simple wood and gold for her invitations which also correlates with her actual wedding theme. They also have over 40 colors of envelope choices for that bit of color pop you're looking for.

They have over 900 wedding invitation sets including save the dates, wedding invitations and enclosure cards, wedding menus, wedding programs and even matching thank you cards! And how cute are the chic photo coaster favors? Something everyone can use!

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Spring is in full bloom and I have been on the look-out for the must haves this season.

Spring is in full bloom and I have been on the look-out for the must haves this season.

JUMPERS

I have jumped on this band-wagon STRONG this season. Why? Because they are super cute and easy. I love dresses for this reason to. There is something about putting together a full outfit, but when you can slip on one piece & feel like you're killin' it, well that makes dressing so much easier. This beauty is from Sweet Threadz  ($33) and it's adorable. It has amazing pink details lining the bottom of the pants so I popped some color in there with some pink shoes & earrings under $15 on Amazon.

MIDI DRESSES

I was never into mid-dresses because I felt like the length made me look shorter than I am. I still have to be very careful when purchasing them & style it up with the right pair of heels. This one is also from Sweet Threadz. Unfortunately this one is sold out but I am linking one like it here. I styled this baby with a Gucci Belt, strappy black heels, black statement earrings & a Bottega Clutch. And topped it off with some kick a$$ JLo type sunnies from Diff Eyewear.


STRAW BAGS & HATS

I have always been a fan of the hat. I have a TON. I love the straw hats for summer, these two were actually my friend Holly's who passed away. I love that I have something from her to cherish. This is also her straw bag. The straw circle bags are really hot this season too, I still need to get me one of them! I topped this look off with a pair of blue Diff aviators. I popped the pink detail with some pink block heels from JustFab.


NAME NECKLACES

I am OBSESSED with this trend. I hate that word but that's what it is. I love layering the dainty necklaces, I am super into that right now. Some of these are quite pricey but I got mine from Harper & Jewels. It is $75 plus my code STYLEMYMIND will give you 15% off. I also have the J bamboo necklace I love. This one is only $33 & an extra 15% with my code. I guess we all just want everyone to know everything about us so we wear it on our "necks"... get it? Instead of sleeve? Haha! I am also loving the pearl clip trend right now. LOVE! Mine are from Keeping Up with The Accessories, and the quality is amazing.


FLORALS

Yes for spring, I KNOW groundbreaking! Haha. I am careful with my selection of florals because sometimes they can look a little older or like curtains. I love this off-the-shoulder top from Sweet Threadz because it is bright & colorful, flirty & young. This one's also sold out, so linking one like it here!


Some of the florals are drop dead gorg  this season. Here are some of my faves:

 

About Tonight Floral Maxi Dress- Red Dress Boutique

Vacay to the Vineyards- Red Dress Boutique


Dreaming of Roses Blouse- Pink Lily Boutique


Promise to Love You Forever Maxi- Pink Lily Boutique


XO, CHeers!
Jenn

PS- I will be taking a blog break until I get back from Europe! Follow along on my IG @stylemymind_jenn 

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Stay-cays are easy and affordable because you don't have to fly anywhere, you just figure out what you are looking do like relax, or hike and be one with nature or maybe explore. In this case I am totally ready for a relaxing weekend with my ladies.

I found this little gem suggested by my photographer, Christina Jones. And oh my goodness is it adorable! We were like "we need a stay-cay asap." Sometimes the best thing to do when life gets overwhelming is to grab your girlfriends and shut down for a weekend. Since I have been dating I realize how easy it is to get wrapped up in that person and be with them more than your GFs. I was like Whoa. I need to re-evaluate because my girls are there for life, and this guy may not be. So I have been working on those relationships a little bit harder these days and this is the perfect getaway for it.



Stay-cays are easy and affordable because you don't have to fly anywhere, you just figure out what you are looking do like relax, or hike and be one with nature or maybe explore. In this case I am totally ready for a relaxing weekend with my ladies.

Here is why I love The Belleview Inn. It's older but they renovated it into a blissful, tropical paradise outside of Clearwater Beach. The beach is only about 15 minutes away, so you miss the shoobee, tourists in that area if you prefer. There are also a ton of great local restaurants here, such as Cristinos Coal Oven Pizza. It is the best Italian place around.

The furniture and decor at Belleview is stunning. Everything is so clean and quiet. They have a sweet piano playing as you are welcomed into the lobby and greeted by the kindest staff. They were so helpful and grateful to us for being there. There is a cute coffee shop right in the lobby as well as some peaceful escape rooms for meetings or vegging.

There are two giant porches outside, front and back, donned with rocking chairs and sitting areas to drink your coffee and enjoy the crisp morning air. The pool is small but pristine and lined with chairs and cabanas. There is a beautiful golf club right on the location as well and the landscaping is top-notch filled with colorful flowers and palm trees.




They have multiple room packages to choose from that can include golf rounds as well. The rooms are renovated and very modern with hardwood floors and studded furniture. Right now the standard room is about $200 per night. The Jr. suites which include a king size bed and parlor area, as well as refrigerator and coffee maker run about $300-350.


Dress: BP. Nordstrom
Jacket: Don Me Now (Tampa)
Bag: Crooked Smile Creations
Necklace: Harper & Jewels use code STYLEMYMIND for 15% off
Make Up: Beautycounter 


Overall I give this historic hotel 4 stars! It's definitely a place you want to visit.

Xo, Cheers!
Jenn

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"I'm so unwilling to offer any of my limited free time to any man who isn't, like, the man. My girlfriend said this to me, 'No more princes. A man shows up as a king for you or nothing,'" Bush said. "And like, yeah, I built my own castle. I'm good. I don't need you for anything so you better be a value add." With that, Faris added, "Build your own ladder, I'm not growing my hair out."-Sophia Bush




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A few weeks ago I read this article from Sophia Bush who was on Anna Faris' PodCast "Unqualified" talking about her past relationships and how she settled and some of the biggest mistakes she made in her past. I read this at the most perfect time. 

Reading her article I realized if I just look past the big differences like religion or political stance,  I would be settling for the potential in the relationship instead of what it really is.

"What I realize is that I have to own my role in it, because more often than not, I have chosen to date the potential I see in someone and not who somebody is in this current moment."- SB

It's so true. We look at the men we are dating sometimes and make excuses or just say "he will change." People don't change, and more importantly men don't change because they don't like to admit their faults or insecurities. I have been described as intimidating because most women don't have their lives together like me. I make a lot of money, have my own place, my own business, can take vacations and have the freedom and finances to do mostly whatever I want. Well, most guys, like to be needed and when a woman doesn't need them it becomes a threat.

Bush shares that what she realized is that when someone, especially a man, tells a woman she's "intimidating," it really means he's "intimidated."-SB

It's not my problem that you have been with girls and I am a woman. I feel like at this point if this is how the other power operates I am fine being single forever. Sorry, but not sorry. I always say it's better to be wanted than needed. And in my last relationship this was true, because his ex wife was a money grubbing cheater who needed him but didn't want him. In the current situation he has always dated girls who needed him financially and emotionally because they were so insecure so it made him feel better about himself. I want to help someone be a better version of themselves but they have to WANT to be that version, if not you can't force it.

"And I realized that if I wasn't as patient with myself or as loving to myself as I've been with partners who just didn't, at the end of the day, deserve it...and again that's not a hateful thing, it's just to say like, 'You don't deserve this piece of me,'" Bush says. "That's OK, I f--ked up giving it to you when you didn't deserve it...and I don't deserve to treat myself that way either."-SB

Why am I going to give you the best part of me if I am not getting that in return? That is a clear waste of my minimal spare time. At the end of the day, I know who I am, I know what I want. You need to write your non-negotiables down and don't settle for less than that because I know people who have and now years later they are stuck. Don't let yourself get stuck with someone you already know isn't best for you. My favorite part of this article:

"I'm so unwilling to offer any of my limited free time to any man who isn't, like, the man. My girlfriend said this to me, 'No more princes. A man shows up as a king for you or nothing,'" Bush said. "And like, yeah, I built my own castle. I'm good. I don't need you for anything so you better be a value add." With that, Faris added, "Build your own ladder, I'm not growing my hair out."

And I will just leave it at that. Read the full interview here.

 Xo, Cheers!
Jenn



 

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