It’s Friday– Thank GOD! ♥
I want to preface this blog with saying that I am single because I choose to be, no other reason! I’m firing back……
The other night a very good friend of mine told me he was worried about me that I wasn’t going to get married. At the present time I was pounding grape so I may have been a little more sensitive than normal but I got really upset. I asked why he would say that to me and he said “well because it’s all about you. You do what you want and don’t make time for a man.” I was pissed. I told him we were not on speaking terms until further notice.
The next morning, I thought about what he said and I told him he was absolutely CORRECT! It is all about me. Because for the last 3 years it was always about someone else. I am coming off of two bad situations where I put both of those guys and their happiness in front of my own. The fact is that when I fall for someone they come first. It is probably a fault of my own maybe? I don’t know, maybe that’s why endings leave me so hurt, because I love so hard. But at this point I made a vow not to date right now because I do want to focus everything I have on me, what I want and chasing the dream I have had for so long.
So I want to let all you single ladies know, you are single because you choose to be and that’s ok. Don’t settle. And certainly don’t let anyone else dictate to you how you should live your life. Do I want to get married? Sure, but I am not going to just get married to be married and end up like the 60% of people divorced or 20% of people unhappily married. No thanks! I would rather be alone. And that’s the other thing, I never ever feel alone. Never in my life have I felt lonely. Sometimes I crave to feel alone because I do have so much going on. I have so many amazing people in my life who genuinely care about me that right now I want to spend my “free time”, which I do not have much of, with them! Not some loser that’s opening line is “Have you ever been to Burn’s?”… First of all, it’s “Bern’s” you moron and yes, I have been there with my girlfriends and we paid for it OURSELVES with the money we make working our asses off! So back the F up!
My “friend” said, “I just want you to be happy.” And my reply was, “what makes you think I am not?!” Being married does not guarantee happiness. Actually, I have 4 very close people to me who have all gone through or are going through divorces this year and frankly, I don’t ever want to have to go through that, ever!
So, my response to everyone who thinks just because you are single that you are unhappy is to tell them to stop being so jealous and envious of your freedom, the ability to be who you are and do what you want. Sometimes I lay in bed for hours having marathons of chick flick shows like One Tree Hill and Gossip Girl, I am sure your husband is not on board with that! And if he is, you may want to question your marriage! But that is something that makes me happy and I love having the freedom and option to do it!
Your life is your own, craft it how you like. God made us and our paths all different for a reason! If we all lived the same way, this world would be a total snooze fest. My best friend from high school sent me this & it is 100% accurate! I have bigger dreams and goals than to be someone’s wife.
So let me do me, and you do you. I promise not to forget you when I reach my dreams of being successful, happy and fulfilled and you are still stuck where you were 10 years ago!
k- bye Felicia!